The Heart of India – The Golden Triangle

Are you an India enthusiast? Love Indian food and garments? Want to visit the Taj Mahal? If yes, then take an unforgettable trip to the Golden Triangle, a tourist circuit of the three most visited cities in India – Delhi, Jaipur and Agra. These are all connected to each other by good road and rail links. On the map, these approximate an equilateral triangle, some 200km on each side. The extraordinary wealth of cultural and historical splendor is on offer in each of the three cities and provides a truly ‘golden’ experience‘.

India is a huge country and if you are looking for a taste of India on your first holiday, then this Golden Triangle circuit is the best option to explore the charm, glory and contrasting experiences that are unique to India.

Delhi is a surprisingly amiable entry point with its visa on arrival facility for Indonesia. A typical week long trip starting and ending in Delhi and is well worth your time and money. It is packed with so much energy, inspiration and fun that you are left overwhelmed at the end. Although the area covered may seem limited, it exceeds expectations. It is possible to do the trip by train, coach or private transport. Keep aside time to savor the food and shopping too.

For a luxurious holiday, opt for the ‘Palace on Wheelsa private luxury train that plies a week-long route from Delhi to Jaipur, on into Rajasthan and back via Agra. Its plush, carpeted interiors include two dining cars and roomy bedrooms decorated in Rajasthani style. It’s an authentic royal experience.

New Delhi, capital of India is built on the ruins of seven previous cities. A city of spectacular contradictions, ancient and medieval monuments that jostle shoulder to shoulder in the midst of contemporary infrastructure and modern malls. Old Delhi attractions are the Red Fort, with its fabulous light and sound show. Jama Masjid, the biggest mosque and Chandini Chowk for shopping.  Then on to visit Qutub Minar- the worlds tallest brick minaret, Chhattarpur Mandir and many more historical forts and mausoleums to explore. Other contemporary tourist attractions are the lotus Baha’i temple, recently constructed Akshardham Temple, and Raj Ghat, a memorial to Mahatma Gandhi.

Jaipur, the royal capital of the largely desert state of Rajasthan, is home to some of Asia’s best bazaars and a spectacular vision in dazzling pink, a brilliant example of medieval Indian architecture. The City Palace complex is a labyrinth of carved stone palaces, towers and stunning courtyards ornate with water fountains and sculptural grandeur. The Hawa Mahal is an ornate five-storey façade, designed to allow the women of the royal household to observe the street in anonymity, is another world heritage site. Explore intimidating fortresses, royal cenotaphs and havelis (mansions).

Shop for crafts at the bustling bazaars and watch artisans making jewelry, tie-and-dye textiles and earthenware. Enjoy folk dance and music performances and see puppet shows as you listen to legendary tales of valor and love.Completing the triangle, Agra – takes you back in time to an era dominated by great Mughal kings who were die-hard patrons of art. The white marble mausoleum, Taj Mahal is an ode to love, built in the memory of his wife by grief stricken Mughal Emperor Shah Jahan.  With its intricate carvings and inlay work of semi-precious stones, Taj Mahal is a huge complex housing several magnificent structures, and a World Heritage Site. Opening hours are 6am-7pm daily except Fridays. February is the month for Taj Mahotsav festival in Agra with an array folk traditional dances, music and traditional Mughlai cuisines.Then back to Delhi to return to your home country. The golden triangle is the most popular tourist trail in India and showcases India’s history as well as its accelerating economy and ever-evolving culture.

Where to stay: Accommodation is available in all ranges. Plush hotels can burn a really big hole in your pocket. Try the mid range hotels for best value.

What to eat: It is most important to drink bottled water, which is available everywhere cheaply. Eat at trustworthy mid-range eateries where the food is good and surprisingly affordable. Pure vegetarian food is a tasty option and easy to find.

When to go: October to March is the best time to visit when the temperatures are a pleasant 25-10 degrees Celsius and the country celebrates many colorful festivals during these months.

Getting around:  In addition to domestic airlines, the three cities are well connected by rail and road. You can book rail tickets up to two months in advance at Indian Railways website online. Tour operators provide many customized options and private car hire is easy. Although taxis are cheap, the classic way to get around Indian cities is by auto-rickshaw (bajai in Indonesia).

As Published in The Jakarta Post on Friday, 18th Nov 2011

As Published in The Jakarta Post on Friday, 18th Nov 2011

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Need More Time? Learn to say ‘NO’

I wish I had more time to…” is an oft heard lament brought about by the constant overwhelming struggle to keep up with our to-do lists. The recent Professional Women at Britcham event on ‘work/life harmony’ had a panel of four amazing women super-achievers. They candidly shared their strategies on juggling all their roles and time commitments to achieve the fine balance.

The key lesson from the panel discussion – Learn to value your time, as you only have a finite amount of it, and it’s your most valuable asset.

Panelist at Professional Women at BritCham Event

We often agree to do something that we actually didn’t want to do if asked at work or by friends and family? Many of us find it hard to say ‘no’ and end up doing it…to later feel used and resent it. So why do we continue to say yes? It could be that we believe that saying ‘no’ is uncaring, even selfish, and we may have a fear of letting other people down. On top of this may be a fear of being disliked, criticized, or risking a friendship.

Being unable to say no can be exhausting and stressful. It undermines our quality of life if we spend hours worrying over how to get out of an already-promised commitment. Don’t wait until your energy runs out before you take a much needed step back to assess the situation.

Learning to say ‘no’ sends a strong message that you value your time, have priorities, and also respect the person to whom you’re saying no, as you don’t want to commit to something and then do a lousy job or not do it at all.

Saying ‘no’ a great productivity booster. Here are 7 simple ways to say no:

  1. I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.” Let them know if you are too busy with prior commitments.  You could also share what you’re working on to make it easier.
  2. Now’s not a good time as I’m in the middle of something. Maybe we could connect at another time,” to sudden requests for help or phone calls when you are in the middle of something. Let the person know it’s not a good time convey your desire to help by suggesting another convenient time.
  3. I’d love to do this, but …” is a gentle way of saying no. It lets the person know you like the idea and cannot participate due to other reasons such as prior commitments or different needs.
  4. Let me think about it first and I’ll get back to you.”  This is more like a ‘maybe’ than a straight out ‘no’ and can be used if you do not want to commit immediately.
  5. This doesn’t meet my current interests.” If someone is pitching an opportunity that does not interest you, let them know straight out.
  6. I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try …?” If you are being asked for help, where you cannot contribute, be open about it and if possible refer them to a lead they can follow-up on.
  7. No, I can’t.” This is the simplest and most direct way to say no. Be prepared to refuse requests that don’t meet your schedule or needs. Remember you’re turning down a request, not a person. People usually will understand that it is your right to say no, just as it is their right to ask the favor.

Saying no is about respect and value for your time and space.  Keep your responses simple and direct. Try to be strong in your body language and don’t over-apologize. Remember, you’re not asking permission to say no. As you practice saying no, it will get easier. Start now!

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An Electrifying Encounter

Yusuf-Budi-Santoso

Yusuf Budi Santoso

This was the 4th time I was visiting Pak Yusuf Budi Santoso at his clinic and the experience was as amazing as the first time a decade ago. My friend first took introduced me to this Chinese healer’s on busy Jl Gunung Sahari in Jakarta. While we waited for our turn in the waiting area, the TV coincidentally was tuned in to the healer, Pak Budi Yusuf Santoso’s interview on TV.

Pak Santoso wears a white short sleeved shirt, black trousers and rubber flip flops. A large wooden frame bed with a metal layer on top is his examination table. I did not know what to expect when I sat on this table. He gently touched my arm a electricity coursed through his fingers up my arm while a a faint sound like a ‘whirrrr..’ seemed to emanate from his hands. Each time he placed his fingers on the points of the meridien I could feel the electricity course through my body till the tips of my fingers and toes. When he placed his fingers on either side of my head near my ears, I feel the electric current frying my brain. When this current was applied at points on the nape of my neck, it would jerk uncontrollably. It was the weirdest experience ever and I was tense throughout the session as I was convinced he had some tricks up sleeve.

At the first meeting, I got off the table and got down on my knees to look under te bed and around it to check for hidden power source and/or batteries but there was none. I quizzed him as to where he got his source of power and was told that he learnt from his father at the age of 12 in China. His siblings were not interested and do not have his powers.

Yusuf-Budi-Santoso

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Pak Santoso explained it be Qi Gong or Chi Kung, and the energy work is all about aligning the flow of ebergy along the meridien in the human body. The meridian is a concept central to traditional Chinese medical techniques such as acupuncture. In Chinese medicine, the meridians are channels along which the energy (chi or qi) of the psychological system is considered to flow. Illness is attributed to imbalance or interruption of chi.

I have taken a couple of friends interested in energy work over the years to Budi Yusuf Santoso and it has been an amazing experience each time. So if you are open to trying out something new, even if you are a skeptic, this is definitely worth a visit.

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Singing Diva: Penaz Masani in Jakarta

She has trademark head of curly hair, a million dollar smile that lights up the auditorium and her melodious voice fills it with music. Penaz Masani is a warm and wonderful human being with a musical gift. It was a pleasure to meet her in Jakarta, while she was here with a dance troupe. the planets, with Indian Council of Cultural Relations (ICCR) and Embassy of India to present a musical evening – Tishnagi.

Penaz Masani is a celebrated name in India, amongst the many ghazal lovers. Since 1981, she has cut over 25 discs and sung in over 10 languages. She can melodiously render a vast range of ghazals, starting from the traditional to the more modern forms.
In addition to many accolades and awards, she has been honored with the Padma Shree award in 2009. She is also India’s Goodwill and Cultural Emissary with ICCR.

‘To enjoy, experience and understand the ghazals, first of all you need to be familiar with Urdu language.’ said Penaz. This Parsi  singing diva is fluent in chaste Lucknowi Urdu, which she learned from  Professor Nizamuddin Ghorekar at St Xavier College in Mumbai.

Her interest in ghazals was inspired by Begum Akhtar. Later learning ghazals from Madhurani.  To quote Penaz “Madhurani Ji is the only artist on this planet  who performs for the Gods, who is born for pure music”.

The show ‘Tishnagi’ had Penaz  singing from different Bollywood eras ably supported by the dancing troupe. Ghazals , Peppy Pop and Bollywood in her unique voice, such that one wanted to say ‘abhi na joa chod kar, ki dil abhi nahin bhara…’

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Fairy Tales on the Roadside

wonder if these life size statues are waiting for an enchanted garden to come alive…

Damsels and Warriors

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‘You Know Me?’

The Demon God in Ramayana - Raavan

I spied this fun poster promoting the Wayang Orang Bharata at a mall in Jakarta. Wayang Orang is a form of a traditional drama performance originally from Java based on the stories from the Mahabarata and Ramayana.

One of Indonesia’s unique art forms is wayang (traditional puppetry), influenced by Hinduism, and the history of which can be traced as far back as the 9th Century in Indonesia. There are many types of wayang, from the wayang kulit (shadow puppet) to the wayang topeng (masked puppet) to the famous wayang wong or wayang orang.

In wayang orang, the dalang (narrator and troupe leader) only provides a suluk (prelude) to the story, and the performers dance, sing and speak — usually in Javanese — to act out the drama.

Want ringside seats to this very special performance:

Wayang Wong Bharata Jl. Kalilio 15 Senen, Central Jakarta Tel: (021) 706 42535

Poster: Wayang Orang Bharata, Jakarta

Ghatotkacha is one of the super heros in Indonesia and many stories are enacted featuring Bhima’s son Ghatotkacha, who was half-Rakshasa (giant), and had many magical powers.

Poster: Ghatotkacha: The Power of Gatotkacha in You

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So Cool: Taxi with Batik

Batik-ed Blue Bird Taxi, Jakarta

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Friendship First

A Chinese Character that means "Friend" , read as "You"

Trust, gratitude and appreciation are the keys to all relationships, I think, and friendship is the keystone to all relationships.
We accept and celebrate our friends for who they are as a package of the good AND the bad. Just like a painting for what it is, and NOT what it lacks. The intention is never to ‘change’ a friend into a better person.
Then we go a step further and support them and be there for them, after all a friend in deed, is a true friend.
I am determined to be a friend first in all my relationships and then a mother, sister, employer or whatever.

My ‘aha’ moment was the insight that am I not my very best friend? When I am alone with myself, isn’t it like having a conversation with a friend, mentor, caretaker all rolled into one? Only when I can appreciate and love myself as a friend can I truly BE a friend.

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Winning the Game

badmintonI jumped as high as I could and smashed the shuttle in the opponents court — only to have it hit the top of the net and fall diasppointingly in to our court. The game was 100% effort and a whole lot of errors.

So in retrospect what determines victory on the badminton court or even in life?

Intention is everything. Visualise and feel the win. Visualise a high five with your partner at the end of the game and glow of victory. As Steven Covey says ‘Start with the end in mind’

In a doubles game it is all about teamwork and cooperation. Each partner should complement the other – a symbiotic effort. It is a losing strategy if one player puts in maximum effort while the partner is unable to support the game. It is the same in all relationships, the intention and effort has to be collaborative for it to be successful. At work imagine if the boss was totally driven and focused on the goals without being equally supported by the colleagues? Would they reach their sales targets?

Another important factor is skill. Expertise is being so good that there are no errors. The better game is a result of FEW or no errors and this is the final key to success and winning.

The 3 keys to winning are intention, collaboration and skill.

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Tiger, Tiger: Office Decor

One of the ‘less than 400 Sumatran tigers’ left in the wild… now in someone’s office!

Taxiderm Sumatran Tiger

Taxiderm Sumatran Tiger

The text below the paintings ‘…mereka juka memerlukan perhatian dan kasih sayang…'(They too need your attention and love)

Full View of Taxidermy Tiger

Full View of Taxidermy Tiger

 

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